This wiki is a step-by-step example explaining how the controller, model and the view's CGridView work together. It explains simple things - as well as more complex things that you will anyway quickly have to know. So, even if you don't use dynamic gridviews, take a morning off and thoroughly work through this tutorial. It should save you lots of struggling.
There are a few issues with the other solutions I originally used that I found from other wikis. I address the issues I had in this much simpler and shorter way. I am also going to explain what is going into way more detail than others to help people understand what's going on.